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Friends and Frustrations

We all have them, those friends that think your sole purpose of life is to jump however high they demand on the spot. I recently had been building up a heavy dose of resentment toward one of my friends and this resentment came to a climax at one point last week. I was venting to my mother and little sister about this friend and they, in a godly way, were trying to convict me of my sin but I was so annoyed that I didn't bother to listen. It wasn't till later when I was reading the Bible that God hit me hard in the heart. I was reading 1 Corinthians 13 which really isn't the smart thing to do when you want to be angry. Here's how I read it.
"Becca is patient with ____
Becca must be kind to ____"
And so on. The parts that were particularly convicting had to do with not being rude, insisting on my own way, irritable (I was pretty irritable) or resentful.
It was a good lesson for me. I hope those of you who are going through things with your friends will be encouraged to know with God all things are possible, even dealing with those frustrating friends. This is a command to love others, not a request. And if God commands it we must obey. Remember that you are responsible for yourself before God, not your friends.

"Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1 Cor. 13:7 

Blessings,
RD

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