Girl? What About Your Brain?

High school is full of friends and drama and learning. Perhaps one of the best parts of high school for girls is the learning because you are expected and encouraged to use your brain. It's good to pass exams with flying colours and finish with high marks.

And then you graduate.

And then what?

You ALL get married and become moms. So what on earth would you need to go to school for? You must think pretty highly of yourself if you want to get your BA (or even worse, Masters) in something.

Why should you go to university for Biology and Chemistry (that you love and excel in) when you could go to the community collage for a year or two or better yet just work at the local diner till some chap asks you to marry him? Why waste your time and money developing your gifts when you could just settle for a minimum wage job that keeps you going till your real life begins?

Because today is your real life. Not the maybe-might-happen-in-five-years. Today. Today is your real life. Today you have been given specific gifts from your Maker and He calls you to develop them and use them for His kingdom and glory and for your enjoyment. If you're a girl who loves being a waitress then by all means get the online certificates and begin pouring the coffee. But if you're are the girl who loves literature or math or nursing or economics or whatever, go develop your gift. God did not oops when He gave you your brain any more than He oopsed when He gave you your eye colour.

The idea that girls don't need and shouldn't have a higher education demeans the high calling of mothers by insinuating that motherhood requires less intelligence than other occupation. Besides which, not all girls become wives and mothers. God is not like so many fiction writers that write the same story and merely use different names for their characters. He has not chosen to tell you what your story will look like in a few years. But He has chosen to give you today. The question is; what will you do with it?

I'm not saying you have to continue your schooling. But I am saying. please don't settle for leaving your intelligence behind in a grade twelve philosophy classroom.

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